You ever receive unsolicited advise or opinions that rubbed you completely the wrong way? Well I recently went through something like this. I'm irritated and I am disappointed. A family member of mine suggested that I am only shooting boudoir photography because I am battling a confidence issue within myself because I am trying to love myself and accept my body for what it has become and I am trying to "make" other women do the same. On top of that, they stated that because I am Christian I shouldn't photograph boudoir photography.
So I am going to set the record straight. Yes I am on a journey of self love and acceptance because I've struggled with diets, body image, and self esteem since I was in college. I use to always feel that the slimmer I was the more beautiful and attractive I would be. I've come to a point in my life where I no longer feel that way. My Beauty and my confidence is not determined by how skinny I present myself to be. I didn't come to this conclusion because I took boudoir photos, but I have taken boudoir photos to love myself even more and feel empowered. I chose to photograph boudoir because I want other women who have felt the same way I did to understand and know that they are beautiful and can feel confidence in themselves not matter their shape or size. Boudoir wasn't something I fell into because I was having some sort of body crisis and didn't know how to express myself other then take half naked photos of myself. I chose to shoot boudoir because I truly wanted to make a difference in others women's lives. Like tear jerking difference. Like life changing difference.
On the other note of Christianity and what it means to be Christian, I could do on and on, but that would be a whole other type of conversation and I've learned that there are certain conversations you just shouldn't have with certain people. Some people are close minded and lack the ability to see beyond their own beliefs and opinions. Yes I am a Christian, but I didn't know that meant I couldn't help empower women to love themselves. I didn't know that being a Christian means that I can't impact peoples lives in a positive way or spread a message of self love and appreciation. I didn't know that being a Christian meant that you can't feel sexy in the skin you are in. I also didn't know that being Christian gives rights to judge, judge, and judge some more. Side note: how is sharing photos in a bikini or bathing suit are any different from lingerie? Also why is one more acceptable then the other for some people? Also why is it that the bigger you are the more socially unacceptable it is for you to share photos that show some skin?
I've said it before and I will say again. I know that seeing half naked women might make some people uncomfortable, especially if you only look at it from that perceptive, but you have a choice to not follow what I'm doing. You do not have to like what I'm doing out of pity, and you definitely don't need to comment if you have anything positive to say. What I'm doing is not just about me. It's not just for me and it's so much more than taking pretty pictures of women in lingerie.
At the end of the day there needs to be a certain level of respect for other peoples choices. If I want to take photos of other women to empower them, its my choice. If I want to have photos taken of me to feel empowered, its my choice. If I choose to share these images on my social media to spread a positive message, it is my choice. No bible verse or well prepared speech will make me stop, it will only fuel the passion I have to go harder. So thanks, but not thanks for unsolicited opinions, judgement, and negative vibes, but I'm swiping to left on ALL negativity in 2020, No exceptions.
On a more positive note leave with this. Never let your goals, dreams, passions, or vision stop because someone may not support you. Know that you can and will make it happen. Stay positive and just swipe left on all negativity period. Do you boo. Do you.
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