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You ever receive unsolicited advise or opinions that rubbed you completely the wrong way? Well I recently went through something like this. I'm irritated and I am disappointed. A family member of mine suggested that I am only shooting boudoir photography because I am battling a confidence issue within myself because I am trying to love myself and accept my body for what it has become and I am trying to "make" other women do the same. On top of that, they stated that because I am Christian I shouldn't photograph boudoir photography.


So I am going to set the record straight. Yes I am on a journey of self love and acceptance because I've struggled with diets, body image, and self esteem since I was in college. I use to always feel that the slimmer I was the more beautiful and attractive I would be. I've come to a point in my life where I no longer feel that way. My Beauty and my confidence is not determined by how skinny I present myself to be. I didn't come to this conclusion because I took boudoir photos, but I have taken boudoir photos to love myself even more and feel empowered. I chose to photograph boudoir because I want other women who have felt the same way I did to understand and know that they are beautiful and can feel confidence in themselves not matter their shape or size. Boudoir wasn't something I fell into because I was having some sort of body crisis and didn't know how to express myself other then take half naked photos of myself. I chose to shoot boudoir because I truly wanted to make a difference in others women's lives. Like tear jerking difference. Like life changing difference.


On the other note of Christianity and what it means to be Christian, I could do on and on, but that would be a whole other type of conversation and I've learned that there are certain conversations you just shouldn't have with certain people. Some people are close minded and lack the ability to see beyond their own beliefs and opinions. Yes I am a Christian, but I didn't know that meant I couldn't help empower women to love themselves. I didn't know that being a Christian means that I can't impact peoples lives in a positive way or spread a message of self love and appreciation. I didn't know that being a Christian meant that you can't feel sexy in the skin you are in. I also didn't know that being Christian gives rights to judge, judge, and judge some more. Side note: how is sharing photos in a bikini or bathing suit are any different from lingerie? Also why is one more acceptable then the other for some people? Also why is it that the bigger you are the more socially unacceptable it is for you to share photos that show some skin?


I've said it before and I will say again. I know that seeing half naked women might make some people uncomfortable, especially if you only look at it from that perceptive, but you have a choice to not follow what I'm doing. You do not have to like what I'm doing out of pity, and you definitely don't need to comment if you have anything positive to say. What I'm doing is not just about me. It's not just for me and it's so much more than taking pretty pictures of women in lingerie.


At the end of the day there needs to be a certain level of respect for other peoples choices. If I want to take photos of other women to empower them, its my choice. If I want to have photos taken of me to feel empowered, its my choice. If I choose to share these images on my social media to spread a positive message, it is my choice. No bible verse or well prepared speech will make me stop, it will only fuel the passion I have to go harder. So thanks, but not thanks for unsolicited opinions, judgement, and negative vibes, but I'm swiping to left on ALL negativity in 2020, No exceptions.


On a more positive note leave with this. Never let your goals, dreams, passions, or vision stop because someone may not support you. Know that you can and will make it happen. Stay positive and just swipe left on all negativity period. Do you boo. Do you.


Stay Beautiful,

Dadiana






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Are you pregnant yet? When are you going to have another baby? When is the boy coming? Don't you want to give Sidney a boy? The infamous questions I get asked over and over again. Four years ago when I had my beautiful sweet Ava I was done. I was over the idea of ever getting pregnant again and today almost fours years later my feelings have not changed, not even a little teeny bit. No baby fever here folks!


I wanted to talk about this today because I feel like there is this unspoken expectation, rule, or standard, that women's purpose is to pop babies out for the hell of it and quite frankly I'm sick of it. I love my girls so freaking much, but do I want another child, hell to the nah! And do I feel bad about that? Hell to the nah! People have literally said to me that I have to try one more time to give Sidney a boy (as if I'm in control of the sex of the baby or of the amount babies I may have). What if I ended up with twin girls, what then? Are those same people going to be up with me for night feedings? Are those same people going to be there to change poopy diapers every 7 to 10 times a day , or potty train? Better yet are those same people going to help me push those hypothetical twin girls out? I don't feel incomplete without a third child or a boy and I don't feel bad for not wanting one either. It's my body at the end of the day that has to make the sacrifice ALL around (yes I said sacrifice because being pregnant, giving birth, or breast feeding is not easy for a lot of women). Being pregnant isn't sunshine and rainbows for a lot of women and neither is motherhood. Postpartum is a real thing. Depression is a real thing. Pregnancy complications and death are real things. These are things that a lot of women contemplate before having having kids along with losing our bodies (yes kinda superficial, but still very valid and not easy).


At the end of the day it's your body and it's your family dynamic. If you wanna pop out 5 - 10 babies by all means do you sis (and more power to you), but if you don't then that's totally okay too. The point I am trying to make is that we are capable of more then bringing babies into this world. Yes that is a huge superpower that we have, but it isn't our only one. Yes babies are a blessing, but they are not our sole purpose for existing. Yes I am a mother, but mama got to have a life too. A life outside of diaper changing and smelling like breast milk 24/7. After birthing two babies I deserve some me time.


Now that my girls are older and are both about to be in school during the day time, I get to have a little piece of time back to myself. Time to focus my energy on whatever it is I want. I deserve that. And for anyone in a similar situation you deserve that too. If you want to get a spontaneous mani pedi, you can. If you wanna go back to work full time after being a stay at home mom for years, you can. If you want to take a romantic getaway for a week with your boo without worrying whether the amount of breast milk you left in the freezer was enough, you can! Don't let anyone make you feel like you have to have a baby or multiple babies to be fulfilled especially if you're not ready or just don't desire to. Your body, your choice. You are in control. Stick to your guns and eventually they will come around, lol. I'm still waiting though, lol.


Stay Beautiful,

Dadiana





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Updated: Dec 12, 2019


Today I'm keeping it simple and uplifting. I read this quote by Oprah that says "Forget about the fast lane. If you really want to fly just harness your power to your passion."


What this means to me is that everyone does things at their own pace. There is no secret formula to being successful. Just blood, sweat, and definitely some tears. Never tell anyone in life tell you that you can't do something. People may not always see and understand your vision and the passion you have behind it. Never let the doubts and insecurities of others become your own. Most all never be clouded by the pace it which others are going.


All you have to do is know that you can do anything you put your mind to. You. Are. Powerful. And you don't even know how powerful you are. Just harness your power to your passion and watch the magic unfold. As always stay beautiful.


xoxo,

Dadiana



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